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Bereavement for the Newly Widowed


For DGIs

"What to Expect when You are Widowed"

by Sue McKinnis

last update: November 2, 2004 (to update WN link)


"When a Friend's Spouse Dies"

(Manuscript Format)

by Sue McKinnis


The above includes "A Widower's Corollary"

by David Bayne



"When a Friend's Spouse Dies"

(Booklet Format)

last update: November 2, 2004 (to update WN link)


From the Introduction to What to Expect:

"Welcome to the club that no one wants to join - the membership fee is just too high. If you’ve picked up this booklet, or been given it, then you know that all the surgery and chemo or all of the medical treatments didn’t work, and death is near for your spouse. If you are wondering what will come next, how you’ll feel, and where to go for help, maybe I can answer some of the questions for you. I’ve been widowed, I know the stages you’ll be going through (only don’t ask me to name them), and I can tell you how I coped, and where I went for help. Please keep in mind that we all grieve differently, and on a different time schedule, and what works for one, doesn’t work for another. Just keep trying until something works for you. "


From the Introduction to When a Friend's Spouse Dies:

"At one of the meetings I attended for my church, some of the women were talking about a mutual friend who had lost her husband. They were wondering what to say to her. Having been a widow for 6 years, I told them that the best thing was a hug, and no words at all, but I had a very long list of things that were hurtful for a new widow to hear.

This started out as a short talk, but under the urgings of my Pastor’s wife, Anita Foster, I have made it into a little booklet. Anita said “It’s important enough that it needs to reach a wider audience.” It’s written from a woman’s point of view, about helping widows, because that’s the perspective I have. I hope it’s helpful."



Instructions on making a pamphlet:

Download the Pamphlet format of the booklet. Print the document (6 pages), then run off on a copy machine, 2 sheets -> 1 sheet. It should fill 3 pages front-and-back.

All files are in Adobe Acrobat PDF format, and require the free Acrobat Reader 5 or above to view.


A special "Thank You" to Michael Goshorn for creating and maintaining WidowNet, a lifeline to us all!